FIGHTING OVER GUYS/GIRLS: FOLLY OR WISDOM
This morning, I read a former student's FB status message: "Never
fight over a guy cos he knows wu (who) he wants." Quickly, I recalled
a story I've heard before:
This girl loved this guy, and the guy had several other girls. The
girl has had several suitors but because of this guy, she wasn't nice
to any of them. She insulted and abused all of them at will. Years
went by, they become graduates, working and fairly successful. "My
guy" is busy enjoying all the privileges of married folks on the girl,
without making any move towards making a responsible woman out of "my
girl." Desperation sets in, my girl begins to frequent myriad
spiritual homes, collecting prayers, substances, prophecies and the
likes, both actual and fabricated. She persisted in seeking spiritual
help until one of her spiritual guides almost "chop" her "thing" after
depleting her bank account. She ran as fast as her legs could carry
her because of her dedication to this "bros."
She loaned "bros" money, bought him gifts while she starved her family
members who were in dire need. She bought him clothes he didn't need,
took him out to places he didn't want to go, made suggestions he was
obviously wasn't interested in. And my "bros" was busy "chopping
every," making sure he didn't give anything away. He was the perfect
gentleman - in bed, out of it; bringing a rose here, surprising her
with gifts to reciprocate her own sweet gestures. As much as he wanted
to, he couldn't move away from her. The truth: he was too used to
having her that he couldn't bear the thought of leaving her for
another man!
Now they've dated for over seven years since graduation. Bros is now
fully matured for marriage and "Sis" is almost past her prime age for
marriage. In fact, there was this day she saw a grey hair somewhere
(an undisclosed location) on her body and she made sure she made him
pluck it out himself the next time they were together. She was hoping
he will take a cue and propose. But, definitely not this "bros."
One fateful day, for the first time since their relationship started,
she gave him an early Sunday morning surprise visit (to take him to
her new church), only to find a very beautiful girl watching TV in the
parlour, wearing her nightgown.
My Sis didn't ask any question. She threw her Bible one side, removed
her shoes, arranged her newly fixed Brazilian hair and pounced on the
"babe." Before Bros could come to the Babe's aid, the Sis has
successfully pummelled her into submission and blood was all over. He
was finally able to separate Sis from Babe after his own clothes have
been torn to shreds. Sis was still raining fire and brimstone from her
mouth when Bros duly informed her that the "Babe" she just beat is his
cousin who lives in the United States that Sis had been speaking with
on the phone since their relationship started! To cut long story
short: my Sis just successfully gave her sister-in-law to-be the
beating of her life!
The Bible says: "The Kingdom of God suffereth violence, and only the
violent taketh it by force."
Thank God it says "the kingdom of God" and not anything to do with
this world - men or women inclusive. In the world, wisdom demands that
you only fight to keep what is rightfully yours ONLY when you are sure
the other party is fighting to keep you too. It is foolishness for you
to fight and defeat every opponent, real or imagined, and while you
are expecting this guy/girl to come and give you a victorious hug
(like we see in films), he/she turns away and goes to pull up and hug
one of the fellows you've beaten!
In the final analysis, the only girl/guy worth fighting for is the one
who will in turn fight for you!
PS: About that story above; believe it really happened AT YOUR OWN RISK!
fight over a guy cos he knows wu (who) he wants." Quickly, I recalled
a story I've heard before:
This girl loved this guy, and the guy had several other girls. The
girl has had several suitors but because of this guy, she wasn't nice
to any of them. She insulted and abused all of them at will. Years
went by, they become graduates, working and fairly successful. "My
guy" is busy enjoying all the privileges of married folks on the girl,
without making any move towards making a responsible woman out of "my
girl." Desperation sets in, my girl begins to frequent myriad
spiritual homes, collecting prayers, substances, prophecies and the
likes, both actual and fabricated. She persisted in seeking spiritual
help until one of her spiritual guides almost "chop" her "thing" after
depleting her bank account. She ran as fast as her legs could carry
her because of her dedication to this "bros."
She loaned "bros" money, bought him gifts while she starved her family
members who were in dire need. She bought him clothes he didn't need,
took him out to places he didn't want to go, made suggestions he was
obviously wasn't interested in. And my "bros" was busy "chopping
every," making sure he didn't give anything away. He was the perfect
gentleman - in bed, out of it; bringing a rose here, surprising her
with gifts to reciprocate her own sweet gestures. As much as he wanted
to, he couldn't move away from her. The truth: he was too used to
having her that he couldn't bear the thought of leaving her for
another man!
Now they've dated for over seven years since graduation. Bros is now
fully matured for marriage and "Sis" is almost past her prime age for
marriage. In fact, there was this day she saw a grey hair somewhere
(an undisclosed location) on her body and she made sure she made him
pluck it out himself the next time they were together. She was hoping
he will take a cue and propose. But, definitely not this "bros."
One fateful day, for the first time since their relationship started,
she gave him an early Sunday morning surprise visit (to take him to
her new church), only to find a very beautiful girl watching TV in the
parlour, wearing her nightgown.
My Sis didn't ask any question. She threw her Bible one side, removed
her shoes, arranged her newly fixed Brazilian hair and pounced on the
"babe." Before Bros could come to the Babe's aid, the Sis has
successfully pummelled her into submission and blood was all over. He
was finally able to separate Sis from Babe after his own clothes have
been torn to shreds. Sis was still raining fire and brimstone from her
mouth when Bros duly informed her that the "Babe" she just beat is his
cousin who lives in the United States that Sis had been speaking with
on the phone since their relationship started! To cut long story
short: my Sis just successfully gave her sister-in-law to-be the
beating of her life!
The Bible says: "The Kingdom of God suffereth violence, and only the
violent taketh it by force."
Thank God it says "the kingdom of God" and not anything to do with
this world - men or women inclusive. In the world, wisdom demands that
you only fight to keep what is rightfully yours ONLY when you are sure
the other party is fighting to keep you too. It is foolishness for you
to fight and defeat every opponent, real or imagined, and while you
are expecting this guy/girl to come and give you a victorious hug
(like we see in films), he/she turns away and goes to pull up and hug
one of the fellows you've beaten!
In the final analysis, the only girl/guy worth fighting for is the one
who will in turn fight for you!
PS: About that story above; believe it really happened AT YOUR OWN RISK!
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