If I Had Married My Ex...

Ego got married to Max not necessarily because she loved him but due to his wealth. She didn't know this bitter truth, or she couldn't admit to its veracity at the time owing to her desire not to "marry poor". There is nothing wrong with her marriage that she can put a finger on. It is for this purpose that the overbearing discontent she feels sometimes surprises her. Max respects her, treats her with respect and listens to her. He gives her great attention, yet she couldn't just shake off that feeling that given another chance, she will make a totally different choice. Behind these constant bouts of regret is the very man she dated for five years, Ekene. It was a tough call for her, but his inability to secure a job accompanied with the gnawing fear of his remaining poor, hardened her resolve at the time. As such, he was a financial misadventure for her, like she told him before dumping his miserable-looking plastic flowers and hand-made Valentine's Day card, on the ground and closing the door in his face! Now, Ego wishes he could come back with those gifts from the heart!


One English adage says: Look before you leap!
It means that before we take a decision, we really need to weigh the pros and cons. In more specific terms, one also needs to take the future into consideration when taking today's decisions.

Regret is a surreptitious destroyer.
It takes your mind to the past and makes you rue over things that should have been.
By doing this, regret makes you make the same past mistakes because you discover by the time you get to yet another future, that while you were worrying about what has gone, you failed to make adequate plans for the future.


It is election time in my home country again.
politicians have been going from one part of the country to another, campaigning for votes.
Some of them have adopted measures of desperation because when they should have started getting the real votes, they were busy with other undefined stuff.
Now, that the campaigns have started all over again, they have regrets
And in order to mask their regrets, they make promises, the same ones they made four years ago.


If there is a nything that my sojourn in Europe has taught me,
It is that the bane of African societies is lack of planning and foresight.
We always live for now with the unstated belief that the future will take care of itself.


What is the relationship between this and marrying my ex?
It is not far-fetched because they are thematically linked
In that, the decisions we make or fail to make today
Will affect our future much more than we can imagine
African leaders have to start canvassing for votes once they are sworn into office
Because as from May 29th 2011, the four year mandate starts to count
And another election is in fixed for 2015
So the best time to start campaigning for that election is now.


Happy voting, Nigeria
Make sure you make them pay; those who failed to make the right decisions
In the last four years because if they didn't make it then
They cannot make it now.
Judge all of them by their past and make them pay
To serve as deterrent to those who are coming after them.

Comments

Anonymous said…
Truth is the lies are blatant. There is no oversight on electorial funding. No oversight on the suitability of candidates in the running. Its all a waste. A drain on national hopes and truths without any suitable leaders in the running. If they loot and create jobs and set up a health service that is inclusive and acceptable internationally...so also with national infrastructure build up. There are AA banks benefiting from africas looting leaders deposits and what can be done about that? All for our votes? No. All for what they can steal fullstop.
15 April 2011 at 13:19
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