Izuu's Turn

Why do men cheat? Is it true that men cheat much more often than women? Are women generally more faithful than men? Who is most likely to cheat, husband or wife? These and many other questions like them often come up when we discuss fidelity within the marriage. I have observed that the answers we proffer are often tied to our gender. Hence, a lady would be most agreeable that men cheat much more than women. But the very issue here isn't who cheat more, but why men cheat at all. Women cheat also, but not being one myself, I wish to restrict myself to my area of jurisdiction. Why do men cheat? The answer is simple: women! It's no justification or rationalisation but a statement of fact. Women make men cheat, and the reverse could also be the case. If you think I am wrong, imagine your wife is the only woman on earth and you are the only man. Of course, of all the sins in the world, neither Adam nor Eve was accused of infidelity.

It was just yesterday that a friend wrote: "When some people add two to two, they get strange answers." And immediately after that I read that someone called Gadaffi a martyr. For me, connecting the two statements was natural. Gadaffi, in case they have quickly forgotten, took many innocent lives both indirectly and directly. Of course, we may not be able to convict him of cold blood murder, but do you know how many Libyan lives that would have been saved if he left quietly after holding on to power for a record 42 years? Many innocent lives would have been saved, including those of my black brothers who are now been hounded for being mercenaries. If martyrdom is now reserved for suicide bombers, masterminds of terrorism, blood-thirsty tyrants, then history needs to be re-written: Adolf Hitler, Mussolini, Augusto Pinochet, Joseph Stalin, Idi Amin, King Bokassa, Mobutu Sese Seko, and the facilitators of the Apartheid government in South Africa deserve episcopal sa...

As sad as it is, we live in a society where everything your see in government is meant to deceive the people. Nothing works. Money is approved for projects on the pages of newspapers. No one talks: the politicians because they are the chief beneficiaries of kickbacks and the people because they are made indolent by peripheral bickerings. Long after we have complained about the inefficiency of government agencies supposedly responsible but largely irresponsible in water, power, transport, and general welfare provisions, we are now being stared in the face by a new entrant: EFCC. I used to think that former politicians should be afraid of you, but now we know better! We don't know what really transpires between you and those you so dramatically arrest. All we know is that you have been taking advantage of our collective amnesia. What happened to Chimaroke Nnamani, Lucky Igbinedion and other former governors that you so brazenly waylaid in the past to our uninformed applau...

My dear Steve, you may not be able to read this now. You also possibly would not have read it if you are still on this plane with us. Reason is that you became so successful that small people like me may not have necessarily mattered to you. But you affected my life in the following ways: 1. Your creativity was and is still outstanding. Though I never owned any of the i-products you rolled out, I am yet to snap myself out of the delusion that one good person will make me a gift of one of them. 2. Your can-do spirit showed that everything is just possible. You truly grabbed every opportunity that came your way and made the best of them. But I can't help wondering if you were born in the Nigeria's Niger Delta to some militia prone family or within the Boko Haram neighbourhood in Maiduguri. What about if you were born in Yemen, Afghanistan, Somalia, or South Sudan, what kind of product would you have made? Wonder when our leaders will awaken to the reality that so man...

This title is also confusing for me. The topic it begs for is also a very sensitive one that I really have to tread softly here. I truly cherish my readers and wouldn't want to say anything that will hurt their sensibilities even when it bothers on the senseless or sensible too. Everything still boils down to the one recurring theme I have always had, TOLERANCE. It's a simple two-edged word which means you allow for my difference as I allow for yours. But the sight of two men(?) kissing deeply on a bench in a park, while I was taking a late afternoon walk back in Europe, hardly shows any respect for my own difference. I wish to make this write-up short in order not to say what I shouldn't say. But come to think of it, the most astounding (I'm trying not to use the word "absurd") situation for a man like me is to find myself being asked out by a guy. I don't know, first hand how ladies feel about being "chyked" by humans who bear the same ...

"... The labours of our heroes past, shall never be in vain ..." So goes a part of our national anthem which we always sing with gusto without meaning any word of it! My fascination with this part of our national anthem came by a comment of a friend on FB. He thinks, erroneously though, that our present leaders are wasting the "labours of our heroes past." And I ask, what labours? Which heroes? Unfortunately, our country has no national hero. Tell me one that you know, if you doubt me. All we have are folks who worked solely for their regions and at the national level, they worked tenaciously at keeping us polarised. Sadly, at 51, we are yet to see any true (not pretentious or tribalised) hero for our country. We do ourselves a great injustice by blaming our present leaders for the rot in our nation. Stop reading where you disagree: If not for the divisive politics of the First Republic, would we have had the coups of 1966? If not for the coups, the civil...